• Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to answer the questions you have avoided all your life Shannon L Adler
  • A house divided against itself cannot stand Abraham Lincoln
  • And a rock feels no pain; and an island never cries Paul Simon, songwriter
  • Self care is not selfish. You cannot serve from an empty vessel Anon
  • You were born to be real, not perfect Anon
  • If you don’t start it’s certain you won’t arrive Anon
  • Life isn’t waiting for the storm to be over, it is about learning to dance in the rain Anon
  • The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step Lao Tzu
What does the counsellor do?
Supportive listening is the role of the counsellor. They will encourage the client to express feelings whilst they listen and watch out for clues to the cause of a problem or issue.
What can I talk to the counsellor about?
It can be absolutely anything. If it’s important to you then it will also be important to the counsellor. It can be something that is troubling you, affecting your ability to enjoy life, or it can be to understand yourself better in order to achieve your potential. Counsellors are entirely non-judgemental.
What do I say?
It is your session and you can say whatever you like. It doesn’t matter how you present your story. Sometimes you might find yourself saying things you had not expected to say. The counsellor will help you and will keep checking her understanding with you.
Will the counsellor give advice?
Counsellors never give advice; they will help you make your own decisions.
Can asking for counselling be seen as a sign of failure?
Paradoxically, it can be seen as a sign of strength. Those who can admit to their difficulties could be considered the strong one and asking for counselling often means that you have taken the first difficult step towards resolving your difficulties.
What about talking to family and friends?
Whilst family and friends are important to us it can be hard for them to be objective and their advice is often coloured by the relationship they have with you.
How confidential is counselling?
As members of BACP we work to their code of ethics.
A & S Counselling Services in Eastry near Canterbury, Kent

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What is Psychodynamic Therapy?

It is a model that uses psychoanalytic concepts to explain human growth and development, and the nature of psychological problems. Counsellors are not analysts and they can expect to work in a broad range of settings, with both long and short term clients.

Psychodynamic counselling uses the therapeutic relationship to gain insight into unconscious relationship patterns that evolved since childhood. Memories and other evidence of early relationships are used to make sense of current concerns. The process of change occurs as clients become more aware of the power of the unconscious, including defence mechanisms, instincts and rules for life, to influence behaviour, and hence more able to control their actions and responses.

The therapeutic relationship in contemporary psychodynamic counselling is based on acceptance, empathy and understanding, with an emphasis on developing a good working alliance that fosters trust. The counsellor takes account of the real world of the client, including the impact of trauma, cultural difference, sexual orientation, disability and social context.

Source: University of Leister